We've been fighting ... unfortunately... with my Grandma for a year now, and her developing Alzheimer's, Dementia and Paranoia. She's had Diabetes since the early 70s, and has essentially ignored the care required.
We had her in a nursing home from January to July in '08, and she became markedly better. However, when she left the facility in July (actually broke out, but that's another story), until now, she has completely regressed; even to a point worse than she was a year ago. Saturday, my Mom drove her a house that she and my Grandfather built, and lived in for 25 years, and the house was only 'familiar' to her. It wasn't significant in any way.
She's also... 'trapped' in a certain time frame where her opinions of family members are going to be how they are, and there's no changing them. She feels that my Mom, Dad, Brother, Wife and I are all against her and just want to imprison her. My Grandma even went as far as claiming that my Brother (whom is 25), breaking down and crying because she wouldn't take our assistance, was putting on "an Act".
Her sole mind-set is on helping out my Uncle; her Son. He's been diagnosed Paranoid-Schizophrenic, and refuses to try and get any help for his condition. He's content to leech my Grandma for all the funds that he can. He won't get a 'real' job, and he's the type of guy that thinks the Black Helicopters are out to get him.
Of course, he's pissed at the rest of the family, but mainly because his main source of funding is gone. Grandma went through $1,900 in 7 days recently. She has no major expenses (house, car, utilities, etc), and has no explanation on where the money went.
In the meantime, our whole family is stressed to the hilt. My Mom, who has been awarded Permanent Guardianship after a long and lengthy court case, has been bearing the brunt of the load. As I type this, they have just come back from a second nursing home where my Grandma refused to stay and tried to leave while pushing people out of her way. They wouldn't admit her to the facility because they needed to evaluate her first. They couldn't do it with her current emotional condition. My Dad is heading to the house where they are, and hopefully I can go there soon myself. I just got a text from my wife, stating "Well, the police have been called to try and convince her."
I'm sorry to post this all here, I know it's not your problem. I'll probably put it on my LJ too.... I just needed to get it all out there.
Best of luck, my mother was diabetic since the 60s and went senile in the mid 90s. Luckily she didn't resist going into a home and since I'm the only kid it was easy to get guardianship and make decisions. She's dead now, from cancer. I'm happy to say that she lived in her own dream world and most of the time she had adventures. Her physical therapist was her husband, she had more kids, she traveled, etc. If her delusions were bad, I knew she wasn't feeling well. She died of cancer in 2001.
Thanks for posting this. I have a friend who is an uncontrolled diabetic, I think she's resisting medication. I've sent her this link as she's getting worried about memory problems. Maybe it will inspire her to be more receptive to medication.
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Date: 2009-02-03 06:37 pm (UTC)We had her in a nursing home from January to July in '08, and she became markedly better. However, when she left the facility in July (actually broke out, but that's another story), until now, she has completely regressed; even to a point worse than she was a year ago. Saturday, my Mom drove her a house that she and my Grandfather built, and lived in for 25 years, and the house was only 'familiar' to her. It wasn't significant in any way.
She's also... 'trapped' in a certain time frame where her opinions of family members are going to be how they are, and there's no changing them. She feels that my Mom, Dad, Brother, Wife and I are all against her and just want to imprison her. My Grandma even went as far as claiming that my Brother (whom is 25), breaking down and crying because she wouldn't take our assistance, was putting on "an Act".
Her sole mind-set is on helping out my Uncle; her Son. He's been diagnosed Paranoid-Schizophrenic, and refuses to try and get any help for his condition. He's content to leech my Grandma for all the funds that he can. He won't get a 'real' job, and he's the type of guy that thinks the Black Helicopters are out to get him.
Of course, he's pissed at the rest of the family, but mainly because his main source of funding is gone. Grandma went through $1,900 in 7 days recently. She has no major expenses (house, car, utilities, etc), and has no explanation on where the money went.
In the meantime, our whole family is stressed to the hilt. My Mom, who has been awarded Permanent Guardianship after a long and lengthy court case, has been bearing the brunt of the load. As I type this, they have just come back from a second nursing home where my Grandma refused to stay and tried to leave while pushing people out of her way. They wouldn't admit her to the facility because they needed to evaluate her first. They couldn't do it with her current emotional condition. My Dad is heading to the house where they are, and hopefully I can go there soon myself. I just got a text from my wife, stating "Well, the police have been called to try and convince her."
I'm sorry to post this all here, I know it's not your problem. I'll probably put it on my LJ too.... I just needed to get it all out there.
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