I know I'm kind of ruining the joke, but gender is a social construct. One can see sex without really playing into (read "seeing") dichotomous gender definitions. If I meet someone who is kind of androgynous, do I really have to spend the first few minutes of our conversation distracted by trying to figure out if I've met a "he" or a "she"? Or can I just enjoy meeting a new person?
Sure. Although if you figure out how exactly you've managed to remain completely immune all the cultural indoctrination that teaches us to see gender and attach assumptions to it, which permeates society more heavily than Christian symbolism permeated early modern English lit, do let the rest of us in on the secret?
I'm just taking issue with the "fuck I'm stupid" bit.
I for one am not immune to gendered assumptions, but I imagine some of my trans and genderqueer friends are a little better at it than me. I don't think it makes them "stupid" to not spend the first five minutes meeting a new person staring at their chest to figure out if it's a boy or girl.
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Date: 2009-09-13 11:16 pm (UTC)I for one am not immune to gendered assumptions, but I imagine some of my trans and genderqueer friends are a little better at it than me. I don't think it makes them "stupid" to not spend the first five minutes meeting a new person staring at their chest to figure out if it's a boy or girl.
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Date: 2009-09-14 03:45 am (UTC)(And really, the chest? Try the hips.)