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[theweaselking]

How To Keep Someone With You Forever

I used to work with a guy who got literal *flashbacks*, like hands trembling and head pain and images overwhelming him, about a former employer. I can totally see this in all his stories about that group - and in my own experience with a certain subdivision of My Beloved Former Corporate Masters. Who really were My Beloved Corporate Masters, for a while, and then I quit to avoid a certain subsection of incompetent "management".

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[gygaxis.livejournal.com]

big thanks for this from me too, definitely see parallels to past and present situations and noticing them makes me want to address and fix them.

[tyoko.livejournal.com]

Ouch, that's a truly scary thing to read through...

Reposting.

[skiriki.livejournal.com]

Simply mentioning "job" and "flashbacks" does the same to me. :/

Oh fuck, here we go again.

[lafinjack.livejournal.com]

This is also how the military gets people to keep reenlisting.

[theweaselking.livejournal.com]

Well, that and "If you reinlist now, in advance, you get safe duty. If you don't reinlist you're spending the rest of your time in uniform on the front lines of a war zone. Oh, and there's no guarantee we'll let you out when your term is up, regardless."

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Ye gods there is so much that is true there *shudder* been there, done that, never ever ever again

[chaosrah.livejournal.com]

I think I work in a sick system currently.. No joke..

[sivi-volk.livejournal.com]

That is a scary-perfect description of my previous lab. *goes to do lab work, grateful for new sane lab*

[http://users.livejournal.com/_jeremiad/]

This describes the job I just quit on Friday to a t. It also describes pretty much every non-profit I've ever worked at.

[ladyfox7oaks.livejournal.com]

I've posted the link to that on my own journal, and it's kind of scary, the responses I' getting where people are reading it and saying "Yes, THIS, thank you, boosting the signal,..."
We are a terribly sick society, aren't we?

[aeduna.livejournal.com]

*reposts*
been trying to convince a friend that their upbringing was NOT normal, and this is pretty much exactly the behaviour of their (crazy) parent

[gothpanda.livejournal.com]

"Once you're out of the system, it makes no sense at all. None of the carrots they dangled before you mean anything, and you start to truly comprehend just how much stress you were under. You see things you never would have believed while you were in the system. And the relief is greater than you ever could have imagined while you were enmeshed."

I feel this way about certain relationships I've been in, but most especially the Cam. I've never felt such relief as once I was free from those people, and I wondered why the f*ck I let them do that to me for so long. My greatest shame is that I never extricated myself from those relationships, or that organization, but that I kept trying to make it work until they dumped me, ungrateful bastards. I am bitter but grateful at the same time, which is a weird combination.

How to avoid it/break the cycle?

[raie.livejournal.com]

Right now, it is probably a lot easier for sick systems to flourish as well because they can give the very real illusion that nobody is hiring and that you need the money because the economy is balls. Keeping you too busy to job hunt/interview.

When you are raised in a sick system (as I was, but I don't think it was planned/intentional. I am constantly feeling a feeling of impending dread when things are going right and well, waiting for things to go wrong. I continue to fret until something finally goes wrong (then I feel RELIEVED, wut? It should not be relieving.) But you LEARN that these are the way things are and may be doing these things to other people. (That's frightening, I'd hate to be doing that to my current s/o...) How do you NOT do it? How do you fight it? How do you stop reinforcing yourself and not employ the system on the loved ones in your life?

I'm lost...

Thank you for linking this.